Sometimes—oh, who am I kidding—most of the time, when you you make life choices that are fulfilling to you, there will be people in your life who feel “hurt” or “angry”.
See, it’s like before you are born or even while you’re still a baby, those individuals orchestrate their own idea of what your life path should be. Then, throughout your life, they do everything to support you as long as you emulate their projected version of you.
Now, sometimes this works out, and in rare instances once you embrace your true life path, those same people will be “gracious” about bending their projections of you to assist you in becoming the best version of yourself and embracing your life’s purpose.
More often than not, this is not the case. And when you find yourself unsupported by those in your life that should be there for you most, the primary thing you must realize is that their feelings have absolutely nothing to do with your actions and everything to do with places those people must heal within themselves.
People who truly care for and love you will make a choice to heal and also move forward in their lives. They will be happy for you.
However, when a person continues to live in a bitter headspace, that negativity remains stagnant—like a swamp riddled with mosquitos.
Does it ever make you stand around and wonder, “who’s life is it, anyway?”
Realize, a lot of things a person might say to you in that moment of toxicity come from your “failure” to meet the “criteria” that they have projected upon you—failing to fulfill in them what they have never been able to fulfill within themselves.
Those people can see their shortcomings in life, but rather than change them or find a way to heal or to become whole within themselves, they have to steal pieces of you. Yes, steal…at least, I consider it stealing because they are robbing from your life to piece together their own perception of failures in life.
Of course, failure in and of itself is all perspective…can you guess what tomorrow’s post will be about?
And second, revenge—if that person feels as though you have “wronged” them by acting out in your highest good and sense of purpose—they will retaliate with below the belt comments that are unfounded and can be hurtful.
This can come to a point of downright emotional, verbal, and sometimes physical abuse. Take note: Endure none of this! I know, easier said than done. Realize that their act of lashing out at you has absolutely nothing to do with you or your actions. They are simply expressing their own fear of aspects of themselves.
This is why it is so important to take a personal inventory when you feel threatened about a quality that you dislike in someone else.
At any rate, if someone is demeaning you don’t stand there and digest the negative energy they throw at you just because somehow they’ve made you feel that you deserve it. You don’t. You never did.
Never allow another person’s choice to remain bitter, full of fear, and unfulfilled hold you back from embracing the truest, most honest and rewarding version of yourself.
Just my two cents.
Until Next Time,
Peace and Love
Wonderful perspective from a strong woman heart and proud to call you friend.
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Thank you, my friend. Glad it spoke to you!
Totally agree. And remember what Albert Camus said . . . “Life is the sum of all of your choices.” Don’t let negative people take you down.
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So true! Thank you!!